1. According to the Oxford Dictionary, divorce can be described as “ The legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body.” Other definitions refers to it as “the separation or dissociate (something) from something else, typically with undesirable effects.”
2. The end of a marriage unleashes a flood of emotions including anger, grief, anxiety and fear.
3. These emotional feelings can catch a person off guard and rise when you least expect them. No one enters into marriage expecting it to fail. More than 20 percent of first marriages end in divorce within five years, and 48 percent of marriages dissolve by the 20-year mark (National Survey of Family Growth, 2006-2010).
4. Divorce can be seen as an emotionally difficult event. According the APA (Healthy divorce: how to make your split as smooth as possible, 2014) some factors can contribute to a healthy breakup or divorce, which includes cooperation, communication and mediation.
5. The divorce affects the adults, but it even more so influences the children of these divorced parents. Divorce can be a traumatic experience for children, but Kelly (2012: 237-254) suggests that most children adjust well within two years following the divorce; on the other hand, children often experience more problems when parents remain in high-conflict marriages instead of splitting up.
6. In which ways can post- divorce adjustment of children’s behaviour be minimized? Is post -divorce adjustment of children’s behaviour gender dependent. According to Cummings (1994) chronic, unresolved conflict is associated with greater emotional insecurity in children. Fear, distress, and other symptoms in children are diminished when parents resolve their conflicts and when they use compromise and negotiation methods rather than verbal attacks.
7. The beneficial effects of these resolution-oriented behaviours have been reported whether or not the child directly observes them. Maccoby and Mnookin’s study (1992) indicated that one quarter of divorces were highly conflicted at an average of three and one-half years after the separation, by which time almost all couples had obtained their final decree.